Janet and Jeremiah

Imagine living in a world where you meet someone, and they’re just really not for you. I know, it’s really unbelievable right? There are BillionS of people on this planet and the thought of meeting one person you don’t align with…shocking. Almost too unbelievable but work with me here.  Now, you maintain a respectful coexistence, exchange pleasantries if you’re subjected to the same space but have no desire to pursue a relationship outside of waving as you pass by.  You politely decline invitations as to not make situations uncomfortable (for yourself) or plan for an early departure so not only can you fulfill whatever social obligation you have, they can also enjoy their time as well. Nothing negative said nor hostile interactions, just not someone we want to spend time with. Time is not infinite and a very precious commodity after all. It should be used wisely.  This sounds reasonable right? Because we are adults and we do not have to associate with people or form relationships that are forced, uncomfortable or unwanted. Sometimes, we cross paths with people where our vibe just doesn’t jibe. It takes all kinds of people to make the world go round. It’s a beautiful thing. Me personally? I honestly don’t give any funks if someone likes me or not. I am aware that not only am I a handful, I am an acquired taste. Similar to whiskey neat. Your opinion of me isn’t my problem. I’m good with me.

Now back to this completely hypothetical situation… lets say that Janet has figured out or been told that you just really don’t have any yearning to become besties. Janet takes this hard. She is such a joy after all. A pleasure to be around. And you know what? I bet she is. She probably is the really great person that people in her inner circle describe her as. I don’t want to know Janet on that level. Call me mean or judgmental or whatever, but I have seen with my own two eyes and heard more than enough to know that Janet and I would be toxic to not only ourselves but everyone in the surround areas. You see, like many people, I am an observant bird. I take it all in and base my personal opinions on what I actually see and hear firsthand.   It’s served me well all these years and I’ve only ever experienced a problem when I ignored that nagging feeling inside. But that is a story for another time. Back to Janet. Janet decides to make it her current life goal to make everyone hate us. Newsflash Janet, we don’t care. Go somewhere else with that Bullship. Janet tries with all her might to stir up some discord amongst our current friends to get them to stop associating with us. Jokes on you Janet, we will step away from any situation at a moments notice to snuff out the embers of dissension. We don’t want any angry fireballs to fall on our friends due to our existence or life choices.  And our choices are something we will stand on. This enrages Janet but there's still no funks given overhere.

This imaginary feud has been going on for years and has moments of escalation and deceleration. Over these last few years, Janet and Jeremiah (not to be confused with the bullfrog) have proven exactly what they are as humans. They associate with many people and seem to have friends but again, we're good living at a distance. That should be okay because again, we are all adults. When someone tries to show you who they are, don’t you try and explain it away. We aren’t looking for the Ingalls family to befriend, although that would be fun. But we also aren’t looking for the Manson family either (Neither Marilyn nor Charles, thank you very much). Adult bullies are not for me. I will not conform and you cannot batter me into blindly “loving” you. Mini-adult (aka child) bullies are also not on my things I love list (rant coming soon).  So that’s my story on how adults just can't adult. The moral of this fabricated cautionary tale is to love yourself first, know what you are looking for in like minded associations and stand firm on what you won't accept. You don't have to be rude or mean about it. There is absolutely nothing wrong with peaceful coexistence. It's not "being fake". It's literally being an adult. Always remember that misery loves company. Unhappy people are fulfilled by creating or watching discord unfold. Don't feed them, just like my stance on Sourdough started. Healthy relationships boost and support you, they don't hold you down or remind you what a disappointment you are. Words only tell half a story, don’t fall for it. Kindness is free and life is too short to be anything but happy. Do what feels good. Happy Travels friends.

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