Body Geometry
- officiallyduckingb
- Jun 16, 2023
- 4 min read
There was a time that I was in shape. Like actually fit and not just made of various shapes (a circle is a shape after all).

Then I started creating and growing entire human beings. My next brilliant idea was Meh, I’ll get to it when I get to it after my babies grow a little. Fast forward and now I am in my early 40’s still carrying around an extra 35 pounds of “baby weight” - which in my case is code for I ate whatever I want without a second thought and completely abandoned the concept of physical activity, which just happen to coincide with the time I had new humans at home…..It is not actually the weight I gained during any pregnancy. I lost all that weight. After all 3 births. It’s just what I (we?) tell people. And for most of us, why DO we tell people that? Let’s embrace the fact that for one moment in time, we actually didn’t give a damn. At all. I mean really tell it like it is. We were happy, sad, tired, overwhelmed, depressed, coping, surviving on toddler leftovers, eating our feelings, and the list goes on. Whatever it was, that is what we did. All well, it’s in the past. When you decide that you are ready for change, if you want to change it at all, then that is the time that you do it for you. And it has to be for you, it can not be because someone else wants to see change in you. No No, that doesn’t work.
For me personally, I don’t like the way I look and I have not for quite a while. My dear sweet husband still tells me that I am the most beautiful girl in the world – all round in the middle lookin like Olaf with a square ass. And that is one of the many reasons I love him. But I don't necessarily love me that way. So I decided that I am going to work on changing my shapes to something more flattering than circles, squares and triangles. My body will never be what it once was, and I am ok with that. I am not 20 years old any more and I have grown three entire human beings inside this worn out skin suit. The very least I can do is give it a tune up if I’d like to get another 100,000 miles out of it. Maybe get that check engine light fixed first.
I’m not going to shamelessly plug some fad product or diet plan. I’m simply out here letting you know that you’re not alone in the struggle to get healthier and share some support for you. Today we celebrate YOU! Hey Hey Fellow Human – I see you... chugging along and being a Rockstar! You got this! Keep up the awesome work you’re doing to be the best version of yourself that you want to see.
What I will share with you guys is that I have tried, usually half heartedly, all the things. You know – super restrictive fad diets that cut entire food groups out of consumption, meal replacement shakes, magic pill supplements that just burn the fat off while you do nothing at all, “healthy” eating plans, apps. Nada. Nothing. Maybe I would get some type of positive results that immediately backfired when I tried to eat like a normal person. I have also tried the medication route due to a medical condition but that only helped me GAIN 20 pounds that took forever to come off. So that was also a hard no from me. At this moment in time, I have decided to just make healthier choices – increase fruits and veggies, really try to lay low with the white/processed carbs and incorporate additional whole grains, and continue with hydration with adequate water daily (loads of lemon water keeps my kidneys happy).

I will not restrict myself though – if I want a cookie or a martini, or even a cookie martini – I am going to have it. Moderation is key and I am not going to punish myself by not allowing certain things. I walk everyday - 1.5 miles on lunch break and then additional time after work sometimes both weather and kid permitting. Some stretches and a cycle through of Yoga poses, but I haven't been good about doing those daily. Which is why I feel like all the muscles and fibrous tissues in my body are going to snap like busted rubber bands. Is it super fancy and regimented? No. Am I flying by the seat of my pants? Yes, I most certainly am. Am I losing weight? Absolutely not. Is it going slower than molasses uphill? Yes. But is it working on making me feel better? Uhh, Maybe? lol I do know in the end different choices will help me on the path I would like to walk down.
Just changing one small thing in your daily life can help you get that much closer to whatever your goal is. And that is not just solid advice for health or weight loss but overall life in general. Small, achievable goals leads to positive reinforcement. Baby steps if you will. Then, if you continue to make a bunch of little changes over time, it doesn’t feel so overwhelming. Make changes and keep them for 21 days plus and you have yourself a brand new Habit. Congratulations! Always make sure you run it by your physician if you are going to make changes to your diet and exercise plan, especially if you have chronic health conditions. Just keep on moving in the forward direction fellow earth dwellers!
I find this one extremely interesting. It makes me wonder how odd it is that a male can be (widely) accepted in society with an "odd shape", so long as his income is at an acceptable level (in correlation to his "shape"). Whilst a woman's "shape" remaining in an "acceptable" proportion (despite her income level) is deemed mandatory by society's standard. Though, my favorite part of all of this particular ducking B.....is the your husband's love given to you VERBALLY throughout your journey!